{"id":158,"date":"2012-09-01T17:35:24","date_gmt":"2012-09-01T21:35:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/michaelagee.com\/blog\/?p=158"},"modified":"2024-05-03T19:45:44","modified_gmt":"2024-05-03T23:45:44","slug":"perception-is-not-reality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/michaelagee.com\/blog\/perception-is-not-reality\/","title":{"rendered":"Perception Is Not “What Is”"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"percepc71\"<\/a>Years ago I can remember when I did not have the distinction that my perception and “what is real” were two different things.<\/p>\n

Generally there are two reactions to that sentence you just read above.<\/p>\n

(1). What?\u00a0 Of course it’s not!<\/p>\n

(2).\u00a0 Oh.. yep.. I know what you mean.<\/p>\n

Be happy if you had either reaction, and be humble if your reaction was number (1).\u00a0 If your reaction was number 1 then its a good chance you left your house when you became a young man or woman with a pretty good tool-bag to handle the worlds day to day challenges.\u00a0 You can thank your Parents for that because they are almost solely responsible to that.\u00a0 Good parenting will fill your tool-bag up.<\/p>\n

Now I feel like I need to clarify something.\u00a0 If your reaction was number 2,\u00a0 then that does not mean you did not have “good” parents, and you would hold that against them (that would be “blame” and I have a whole separate blog for that nasty little game).\u00a0 Your parents may not have sent you out the door with a full tool-bag when you became an adult, but they did the best they knew how.\u00a0 So you can love and appreciate them just the same.\u00a0 After-all, believe it or not, parents only want one thing for their kids, and that is to be happy and successful.<\/p>\n

If your stuck somewhere in the middle of this fact of life, then I have an exercise for you.\u00a0 If you don’t know where perception ends and reality begins you can try this.<\/p>\n

Right this second you see yourself as a certain way.\u00a0 Its in this way that you probably believe that other see you.\u00a0 Therefore your perception of how you see yourself as others see you is your reality.\u00a0 You want to find out?\u00a0 Be careful what you ask for, but here is how you can find out.<\/p>\n

But first we have to quantify what is reality.\u00a0 Its difficult to put a formula to something that you may think “just is” but its really quite simple.\u00a0 I promise you will be able to wrap your mind around this.<\/p>\n

There is something called “consensus of agreement”.\u00a0 How do you find this?\u00a0 Simple.<\/p>\n

Make a list of 5 questions about yourself.\u00a0 Find 10 people and ask them each the exact same 5 questions about you.\u00a0 You must ensure they answer the questions painfully honest and not pull any punches.\u00a0 DO NOT let them know that you are asking anyone else\u00a0, and tell them to please not discuss it with others.\u00a0 You want to be sure you get a pure answer.<\/p>\n

Then once you get your list of answers, compare them.\u00a0 Note the ones that are the same from different people you questioned.\u00a0 You will find one or two answers that appear on each and every list.\u00a0 That is a “consensus of agreement” and therefore that is YOUR REALITY.\u00a0 That’s how people see you weather its true according to you or not, does not matter.\u00a0 Its reality.<\/p>\n

Warning.\u00a0 Make sure you understand that this tool may not produce the results you want to hear, but if you are strong enough, you will take your new distinction on how people see you and now have the ability to do something about it.\u00a0 Before you did not have the distinction so you did not know there was anything to adjust, but now you do and that’s a wonderful thing.<\/p>\n

So THATS how I learned “My Perception does not mean Reality”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Years ago I can remember when I did not have the distinction that my perception and “what is real” were two different things. Generally there are two reactions to that sentence you just read above. (1). What?\u00a0 Of course it’s not! (2).\u00a0 Oh.. yep.. I know what you mean. Be happy if you had either […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[32,30,31],"class_list":["post-158","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-daily-dose","tag-consensus","tag-perception","tag-reality"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/michaelagee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/158","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/michaelagee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/michaelagee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michaelagee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michaelagee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=158"}],"version-history":[{"count":15,"href":"https:\/\/michaelagee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/158\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":906,"href":"https:\/\/michaelagee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/158\/revisions\/906"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/michaelagee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=158"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michaelagee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=158"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michaelagee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=158"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}